Last night, I watched a documentary on Netflix “Inside the Manosphere”  about  how male influencers promote dominance and treat women as subservient.

And then I looked at the other side to what people think a real dominatrix is.

On social media, many dominatrixes call themselves female supremacists. They publicly humiliate men as a way to exert power.

But what I see is this:

Both ends of the spectrum are doing the same thing.

It’s just the other side of the coin.

Nine years ago, when I began my work as an online dominatrix, I was no different.

I believed I was superior to men.

I treated them with disdain.

I humiliated them.

And I justified it.

“They want this.”

“They’re paying for it.”

But something didn’t feel right.

After sessions, I felt drained.

Disconnected from myself.

And as I went deeper into my own healing, I realized something difficult to face:

I was carrying a tremendous amount of rage toward men.

That rage wasn’t empowering me.

It was making me sick emotionally, and even physically.

So I chose to look at it.

I began healing my own childhood wounds…. I healed my inner masculine.

(I’ll share more about that in another article.)

And something shifted.

I saw that this work was never about dominating men through anger.

It was about something much deeper.

The men who come to me with a desire to surrender

they are not weak.

They are, in their own way, courageous.

Because what they are really doing is surrendering to the divine feminine within themselves.

They may think they are surrendering to a woman outside of them…

but something deeper is moving.

And it takes courage to let go of control.

To soften.

To step out of the logical mind.

That is not something I take lightly anymore.

So my approach has changed completely.

I no longer dominate from rage.

I no longer humiliate from a place of superiority.

I meet them from awareness.

From presence.

From truth.

And the most interesting part is this:

I am more abundant now than I was back then.

Not just financially

but in peace,

and most importantly,

in love for myself.

This is my journey.

And if anything here resonates, I invite you to look within:

What is your relationship with the opposite gender?

Because ultimately, it is not about “the other.”

It is about what lives inside of you.

When the divine masculine and divine feminine are in balance within…

the war ends.

And what remains…

is peace.